The conventional process of divorce or other family law matters can drive parties even farther apart. It takes a toll on individual dignity, and often children suffer the most. The collaborative divorce process presents a more humane, respectful choice for divorces. It is a process in which the parties and their mediator agree in writing to make a good faith attempt to reach a mutually-agreeable settlement without court intervention. Working together, we craft a way to dissolve your marriage respectfully, or resolve any family law matter in a way that considers everyone’s needs and minimizes conflict.
A collaborative divorce process allows couples to resolve family law issues themselves without entering a courtroom where a judge or jury determines how an issue will be settled. As such, actively being collaborative, places couples in charge of their own fate, providing them with a forum to discuss and negotiate terms mutually agreeable to all involved.
Clear Creek Mediation assists clients throughout the collaborative divorce process to ensure their interests and rights are protected. Your mediator will help you evaluate the pros and cons of any proposed settlement, alerting clients to child custody and parenting issues as well as financial issues that could impact you and your children’s future.
Through mediation, a resolution can be reached that works for the family rather than placing it in the hands of a Judge to decide what he or she thinks will work. A mediator uses his/her skills to gain insight into the family and uses his/her experience to know what can happen in Court to help the parties reach a decision that benefits everyone involved and creates a solution that can work for all involved.
We also offer Family Mediation Services
A Marriage and Family Therapist/Mediator is uniquely trained to help individuals through difficult, emotionally charged situations such as a divorce or a lawsuit resolve disagreements and disputes, and lay the groundwork for an improved on-going relationship between the parties and their families after the divorce is over.
Clients often bring strong emotions to the mediation process, which can interfere with the productive resolution of issues. People want to be heard. It’s the reason why so many people say, “I just want my day in court.” Therapists are trained to closely follow a client’s narrative and listen to their stories. Therefore, the skills of a therapist make it less likely that the mediator will become impatient with a disputant’s pace or attempt to rush the process. Moreover, whereas attorney mediators tend to focus on the content of communication during mediation, therapists are trained to simultaneously attend to content and process of communication during mediation. The pain that people experience during divorce usually has more to do with the inherent adversarial nature of a traditional divorce, rather than the loss of the relationship.
Dealing with loss and grief is almost always a part of disagreements between family members – loss of relationship, loss of a dream, loss of identity, loss of social relationships, loss of financial security, etc. Beginning to come to terms with loss is an essential precondition for reaching a compromise in any dispute. MFTs are trained in helping people find meaning and dignity in their experience so that they can come to terms with loss and grief. Utilizing an MFT mediator allows for an openness that vastly improves the likelihood of successful mediation.
Conferring With Your Own Lawyer We recommend that everybody employing our mediation services confer afterward with a lawyer to review the final Mutual Settlement Agreement (MSA) to assure that your interests and concerns have been addressed in a satisfactory manner.